(A Best Man Speech)
So I've known Toby for quite a while now. We went to Saint Joseph’s Institution some time back.
We used to play this thing called Dungeons and Dragons - which is what they call a role playing game. Picture several nerdy kids in white SJI shorts sitting around a table pretending to be knights and magicians and instead of actually hitting each other we rolled dice.
Obviously, we were the most popular kids in school.
And then in secondary 4, we discovered a dance move called the Running Man. And we became the local celebrities on Whitley Road - everyone wanted to hang out with the 2 hot guys who rolled dice while doing the Running Man.
Toby is incredibly smart but sometimes he gets ahead of himself. Back in secondary school, he insisted that if you were truly intelligent, you'd never need to open a textbook - you'd just know everything there was to know about physics or geography or history.
All that knowledge would just already exist in your mind.
One day he proceeded to illustrate this theory by ripping all the pages out from one of his textbooks.
And then he set those pages on fire.
(Ok there wasn't any fire involved. but it sounds pretty cool though.)
Anyways, that theory obviously worked – today he's holding this amazing wedding dinner at the Four Seasons, while I’m still saving for an event at the local burger king.
Sometime back I was telling a friend about how I wasn't ready to settle down yet. It didn't make sense - I had places to go, things to do, things to see, and a lot more to achieve - and getting married would end all of it. "I still have a lot of adventures ahead of me," I said.
But then he went, “Imagine if you found that girl who you wanted to share all those adventures with. That’s when you get married."
So in a way, I guess "settle down" is a bad way of putting it. We’re not settling for anything, and it doesn't mean that all the adventures end. What it means is that for the rest of your life, you have someone to share all your adventures with.
Toby and Daphne - I love you both and I wish you two the best in all your adventures. May you take each other to places you've never been, lift each other to heights you've never imagined, and love each other as no one has been loved before.
I’d like to end with
(a poem, by e.e. cummings)
i carry your heart with me(i carry it in
my heart)i am never without it(anywhere
i go you go,my dear;and whatever is done
by only me is your doing,my darling)
no fate(for you are my fate,my sweet)i want
no world(for beautiful you are my world,my true)
and it's you are whatever a moon has always meant
and whatever a sun will always sing is you
here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life;which grows
higher than soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that's keeping the stars apart
i carry your heart(i carry it in my heart)